Grandparenting: Samurai Style

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Being a grandparent is one of life’s biggest joys.  I did not fully understand why my friends would be ‘head-over-heels’ when they spoke of their grandchildren.  Now… I understand, and I am the same way!

Samurai in training

When my first grandchild, Kaiya, was born it did and still warms my heart and brings so much joy.  She is definitely a ‘first born;’ tenacious, self-starter, high achiever, and keeps me on my toes.  She possesses qualities of a samurai; courage, integrity, honesty, and honor.  I am reminded of my samurai heritage and treat her individually as a ‘samurai in training’ when interacting with her.

She definitely walks down the straight and narrow path. She considers her actions, how it affects her younger siblings, and is a wonderful ‘big sister.’  In kindergarten, her school work was of utmost importance, and we read and do homework together, and enjoy the learning process.  She enjoys whittling and discovering the woods with her grandfather.  We enjoy doing cooking, dress up, and crafts together.

A big brother with courage, benevolence, and loyalty 

Our second grandchild, Kenji, was born prematurely, but he was a fighter!  It gravely concerned us as we watched him in the Neonatal Intensive Care Unit (NICU) connected to tubes and fighting for his life.  It was truly a blessing as he was released before Christmas to join his older sister. He is a very caring person, displaying qualities of courage, benevolence, and loyalty.  I love his caring heart, and he is compassionate to his younger sisters.  He was a great ‘big brother’ when he woke up in the middle of the night, comforted his twin sisters, and gave them the pacifiers that fell out.  He shared that he liked being inside like Grandma, and enjoys acting and dressing up as a ninja or samurai.  He likes story time, and walking in the woods to find treasures with Grandpa.

Grandparenting and the Code of Bushido

It has been a privilege to have both grandchildren overnight at our home.  The special treat of picking them up from school, bringing snacks, and planning our stay together is enjoyed by all of us.  The grandchildren have been taught to be polite, respectful, and obey elders; discipline is rarely a problem.  Once in a while, they are reminded to be obedient if they are out of line, and they quickly change their ways.  Being a grandparent is a good reminder to utilize the Code of Bushido; courage, integrity, benevolence, respect, honesty, and loyalty in ourselves and our interactions with our grandchildren.   We look forward to the day when the three younger grand daughters can spend the night with us! The picture to the right is my husband John Whaley, myself and our beautiful grandchildren.

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  • Lynette Hoy says:

    Lori, I am so touched by this post. I did not have the blessing of grandparents like you and John, and I think in today’s world it is really important to have role models like the two of you.

  • Stacy says:

    My parents are Chinese. They raised me by example and word. What they said, they did. Integrity.

    I’ve learned courage probably from their genetics. An example is I saved my money by working at the Ymca conference as a housekeeper in a summer and winter. I left all with money and a plane ticket from Colorado to Washington..stayed with Uncle, bought a car, found a church home, received a job, then later rented an apartment.

    I know my mom always teaches and hints to me about benevolence.

    Loved this article, my dad loves his grandkids. He teaches one abc’s, another he takes to a womens softball game and buys her peanuts. Mom loves being generous to the grandkids.

  • Sharon Soran says:

    Lori, I love that you incorporate the code into every aspect of your life! Being an example and teaching our children and grandchildren these things is the only way they will be passed on. Calling these character traits out in the children is highly beneficial.
    I, too, love being a grandparent! My grandchildren are all nearby and it is my joy to assist in caring for them. I love the laughter and patter of small feet in my home again, as my 7 kids are all grown now. What an incredible blessing it is to see and love the children of my children!

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